The author’s argument is that you should stop trying to lead a perfect life and focus on who you are really is absolutely correct. You shouldn’t have to make yourself into what the world views as the ideal image that women or men have to be. It is too much hard work trying to be perfect all the time that you lose sight of yourself. You should be able to be the same person you were when you were a kid. If you try all your life to be what someone else wants you to be, then in the future when you need to connect with yourself, you will look inside yourself and find you have no real substance to your person.
Think back when you were in elementary school, you didn’t care what anyone thought of you, you were just yourself and there was really no judgment. You didn’t really think about how you were supposed to act because that was only for the grownups. The set of rules that apply to you now didn’t come into play until you reached your first year of middle school. This is when it set in that you to follow these rules that were set up by society that instruct you on how to behave in society.
For example, when you went to a grocery store and had a temper tantrum people would stare at you and think your parents were bad parents because they couldn’t get control of you. You didn’t care what people thought you just wanted to get your way even if you were embarrassing your parents the whole time and you would usually get it because your parents didn’t want to cause a scene so they would give in just to shut you up.
The statement that we strive to be what society perceives as the ideal person you are supposed to be is true. When we go against what rules we are to follow for our sex, we get judged and called crazy. When a man wants to stay home to take of his kids it is frowned upon because men shouldn’t depend on the woman in the relationship to bring in the money to support them. Society believes that women have to be pure, but yet men don’t want a woman that is innocent. This forces you to have to show a persona in public that reflects purity, but in private men expect you to not be so innocent.
The author has the right idea in mind when she goes against the mold of society. You should learn to take risk in everything you do because if you spend so much time focused on being scared you miss many opportunities that come your way. When you look back to find that you are unhappy it is because you didn’t take many, if any, risks and just looked for the easy way out. Don’t listen to people when they say you’re crazy for wanting to be yourself and don't be afraid to go out on a limb to go after something you want.
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